You are not
alone who have not understood me, I feel the same for myself.
This has been a
while since I spoke to myself. After rushing through life goals and
achievements, I hardly had time to talk to myself. Isn't it quite strange that
we meet and greet so many throughout a day but hardly see ourselves as a
person, an individual and a separate entity who needs the same from
us?
Most of the time
we complain that people don't understand and have a prejudicial view of
us. But we do have the same for us.
Let's start from
the beginning.
Yes, I treat
myself as someone should achieve more than what he has. He should look
different than what he finds in the mirror, his handwriting should be more
perfect, his accent should be firmer and more neutral, he should be speaking
more accurate and with a larger vocabulary and the list goes on.
Like how he
should walk, talk, write, speak, greet, work, and behave.
So, whenever I
start something new, I have a precondition for myself how I would be doing it.
I have already imagined about process and outcome both before even
starting it.
In similar terms,
we can say, these are some expectations we all have form ourselves irrespective
our situation in life. We never wish to see ourselves falling from our own set
standards. Expectations of others we can ignore but we live every day with our
prejudgement about ourselves.
Now the question
arises, from where we get these expectations and why we keep fighting them but
never let go.
Since childhood,
we used to hear about ourselves as some kind of superheroes, who will walk like
that, look like that, speak like that, sing-dance like that, and comparison
goes on till we become grown-up and resemble none like that. However, these
conditions did not become our beloved one’s expectations to us, but we also
believe we would be better if we were like them not what we are.
We start the
race even before we learn how to walk. In deep down we find alienated to self
when expectations meet reality, and nothing feels real.
Does it mean
that we should not have an expectation? How does it work, where we have a
reality check and motivation both to meet our expectations?
Isn't it simple
that question gives answer too?
Yes, the reality
check and motivation both should go together.
If I want to be
a writer then I should read first,
If I hope to be
an astronaut then I should feel weightlessness first,
If I wish to be
a scientist then I should taste the failed experiments first,
If I desire to
be a boxer then I should feel the pain first,
So, the rule is
simple, first,
Weigh yourself
then put your weight on something, and once you commit then give everything to
it.
There is no
shame to accept what we can't do but no fame we should seek in what we can
do.
-rituraj
